As the season changes, I am reminded of how important it is to realize that seasons change in our lives as well. It would be quite ridiculous to fight nature and continue wearing our shorts and t-shirts into the cold and snowy winter, just as wearing an adorable fall sweater, boots, and scarf would be quite uncomfortable in the dog days of summer. It would be easy to call someone doing that crazy, never considering that, without realizing it, many of us do the equivalent with seasons in our lives.
When I look back at my life, it feels like I’ve lived so many different lifetimes. There were the crazy teenage years, the years of traveling and living abroad, the newly married life, and, of course, the most recent of being a full time mom to five kids. Through each of those seasons I learned so much, grew and changed within them, but then I had to move on. I had to let each of those seasons go to move on to the next one.
Letting go is not something that comes easily to most of us, but it is necessary to create room for new life, new growth, and to become who we are supposed to be. Fall is such a beautiful picture of letting go. Leaves are changing into brilliant colors of red, gold, and orange, and although the trees are gorgeous, they cannot hold on to their leaves forever. They must let them fall to the ground to prepare for what is ahead of them. Sometimes our lives are their most brilliant and beautiful before winter.
Winter can be a tough season, but it doesn’t have to be. Here is why it is so important to know and embrace what season you are in. Winter is a time where trees and plants go dormant because they are preparing for what is ahead. They know something that we seem to have forgotten. There must be rest, peace, and deep slumber to prepare for the new life that is just waiting to burst forth in the spring. How many of us try to keep living in the fullness of our summer season when we really need a winter season? It’s so important to take time to rest for restoration in our lives.
Is there an area in your life where you are trying to carry some no longer relevant seasonal thing forward and it’s just not working? Let that thing go! I hate to break it to you, but that snowman just isn’t meant to make it through the spring.
I have learned that relationships can be for seasons too. Thanks to social media, it’s easy to feel like we have to keep up with every single person that we’ve ever known forever. That is just not true! People can be more difficult to let go, but I finally had to learn to do it because I was always living in guilt for not keeping up with everyone. Roommates from college or trips abroad create the special bonds that only living together can create, but maintaining that bond once you have a family is not something you have the same amount of time for a season (or several) later. That was a really hard one for me because relationships are something I really value. I couldn’t build new relationships and pour into those around me when I was feeling guilty and trying to keep up with friends throughout time and around the globe.
I want to challenge you with the concept that even your list of five things can change. Give yourself grace to grow and change and move forward. If there is something in your life that is holding you back from that, take a cue from fall and realize you are letting go to make way for growth and become who you are meant to be.
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