The other day I was driving and I saw a car with the bumper sticker that said “Stuck in Ohio.” I’ve seen quite a few bumper stickers in my day, but something about this one really stuck out to me. (See what I did there?)
First of all Ohio is freaking amazing, but what I really want to talk about today is the mindset of feeling stuck. The purpose of five things is so that you don’t just let life happen to you, but you are intentional with your choices and guide your life accordingly.
Victim mentality says that you have no control over your life situation. Now, in being realistic I realize that for many in the world that they may not have a choice in their situation and I get that. There is something that everyone does have control over though and that is your mind and your outlook. William James said, “If you can change your mind, you can change your life.” I have found this to be so true in my life.
Words are powerful. In my post The Power of Encouragement, I talk about how words can build people up as well as tear them down. If our words can affect other people how much more are our words affecting us?! What are you telling yourself today? That you’re stuck? The more you tell yourself you are stuck in a situation the harder it is going to be for you to get out of that situation. When I would mess up in my role of mom the first thing that would come to mind is “Uh- I’m such a bad mom!” I can tell you right now that thought didn’t help me to become a better mom! Once I realized what I was doing I decided to change my inner dialogue. When I mess up (yes, I definitely do) I now think to myself “That was dumb, but you are a good mom and you will do better next time.” Then it gets me thinking of how I can do it better next time. Those kind of thoughts lead you to change. Just telling yourself you’re bad at something doesn’t move you forward and away from repeating that mistake.
William James said, “If you can change your mind, you can change your life.”
This is one reason that I am so passionate about five things. It may take a little time to figure out what your five things are, but once you do they can lead you where you want to go. If you are in a situation that you don’t want to be in, but don’t know where else you’d rather be- what do you think the chances of getting out of said situation will be? Zero. You will stay stuck because you have no map to lead you out.
Even if you literally are stuck, having your five things in hand can help you make a plan to get out. It might take a while, but I promise you, it will be worth it. Get some goals in place and take some steps forward. Maybe you feel like you don’t want to live in the city you are in right now- start looking around and putting in applications for jobs in the dream city. Start looking at apartments or putting up adds for roommates in that city. Putting your mind in that new city rather than, “Ugh I hate this city” is going to get you there a lot faster. Jon Acuff says, “Don’t listen to feelings. Make choices.” You can make choices to move out and move forward.
Perhaps you are stuck in a job. I understand that finances can keep you in a place you don’t necessarily want to be in. Figure out what job you would actually enjoy and love to have and start formulating a plan to get there. Going back to school might be an option. Asking someone who is doing the job you’re interested in if you could intern for a few hours a week is a great place to start. Also if you find a company you would love to be a part of there is no shame in starting at the bottom and working your way up. Getting your foot in the door is a huge step forward.
I like to think big thoughts and dream big dreams. I know that if I can change your mind then I will change the world!
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Just for fun I’m gonna leave this here. Squad Five-O had it right so many years ago. Click here for trip down memory lane. 🙂