A couple of months ago, I was at my favorite store, Trader Joe’s, in the check out line talking to the cashier. I always have an overflowing cart, thanks to my large family, so it gives me plenty of time to build relationships with the amazing staff. The cashier was smiling and sort of blushing as she was telling me about how she had started seeing this new guy that had been taking her out to fancy restaurants. She ended her story with, “Yeah, but I just don’t think I’m worth it.” It made me feel so heartbroken that she wouldn’t know how valuable she is.
I left feeling like I couldn’t just let that go, and so the next time I went shopping I wanted to encourage her and let her know she is worth it! I picked out a beautiful bunch of flowers, (Trader Joe’s has the best flowers) and it worked out that I found her right after I finished checking out. I asked her how things were going with her new guy and she said things were going well. Then I told her that no matter what happens with that guy, she is valuable! God loves her so much and she is always worth it!
That experience got me thinking that so many incredible people do not know their worth.
Jesus gave His life so that you can live. He thought you were valuable enough to die for. When we fail to see ourselves as worth dying for, we are believing that God’s value system is flawed and viewing Jesus’ sacrifice as trivial.
It is so important to know who we are and whose we are in order to know how important we are. I believe that finding your five things is a first step in recognizing who you are. When we know who we are, it doesn’t matter what anyone else has or does because we get to live confidently, knowing that we are exactly who we were created to be, and are doing exactly what we were created for.
My grandmother used to say, “Anything worth having is worth doing right.” It does take time to find your five things, but I believe that once you sit down and start really thinking about it, there are probably some things you’ve known all along, but just haven’t put it into words. Once you take the time to land on your five things, it frees up so much of your time that you were previously investing in saying yes to things that were draining you instead of making you more alive!
Let me tell you a little secret: Although people are born with gifts and talents, it takes time, energy, and resources to grow and excel in them. Actually, that’s not much of a secret to most of us. There is nothing wrong with admitting you don’t know something and then taking the steps to invest in yourself and learn it.
Parenting is a huge area of investment for me. I’ve bought books, taken classes, gone to conferences, and hosted small groups on the topic in my home. My kids are worth it! Being a good parent doesn’t just happen. It’s not relegated to the lucky few.
Marriage is a HUGE investment. Having a great marriage doesn’t just happen. It takes time and resources to create and grow a great marriage. When we have the perspective of investment rather than cost, it is easier to spend money on a date night or trip away knowing you are sowing into a lifetime of rewards.
Although we tend to spend our money on houses, cars, phones, and clothes, they do not determine our worth. Why do we often have no problem investing in things that do not last, but a harder time putting our resources toward what lasts forever?
Matthew 6:19-21 ESV
“Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
Your soul is literally the only thing you get to take with you when you go. Invest in your soul now because you are worth it!
If you are looking for resources regarding marriage and family please feel free to contact me and I will be happy to share what we have used. I’ll be working towards getting a resource page together soon.
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