Today I am excited to introduce you to Rachel Scott. Rachel not only parents in a blended family, but has created a whole organization whose purpose is to equip blended families. I was so excited to learn of Rachel’s passion to encourage strong and healthy blended families because there is such a need for it in our culture today. If you are in a blended family (or even if you’re not), I have no doubt that Better than Blended will minister to you and your family for sure!
Name: Rachel Scott
How long have you been a mom?
For eleven years. I had my first child May 16. 2006.
How many kids do you have?
Seven Children total. Four Biological and Three Stepchildren.
What is your favorite thing about being a mom?
Getting to watch my children grow to become their own unique individuals and teaching them the imperfections and grace of adulthood.
What has been one of the most difficult things you’ve experienced as a mom?
When my son was going through a tough season in life because of puberty, unauthentic friendships, frustrations with teachers, bullying at school and unmet expectations from others.
What is something you’ve learned through being a mom?
Our voice carries weight, but only if we choose to use it when things go well will [our children] be receptive to the wisdom we carry when things go wrong. If I want my child to listen to me and value my words, I have to communicate regularly.
Have you surprised yourself in your motherhood?
Yes, I am entering a season right now of something I never thought I would be doing which is homeschooling. I always said, “Homeschool moms have a special grace” and when I said it, I was not talking about myself, or so I thought. Clearly I have that grace and I am shocked!
If you had to repeat one thing in your parenting that your parents did, what would it be?
Teach my children about God and encourage a relationship with Him. Which I am doing daily.
What is one encouragement you would love to pass along to a young mom?
When you are wrong, always apologize. This will free you from condemnation and your children from bitterness and help both of you to live free with open communication.
I love how Rachel talks about apologizing to our children. This is something that is important to me in my parenting, because I mess up often. I want to teach my children that admitting we are wrong is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength and growth. Truly apologizing means saying you’re sorry, being specific about how you were wrong, and not making excuses for that behavior. This not only strengthens our relationships with our children but teaches them how to take responsibility for their actions.
It really resonated with me when Rachel was talking about communication as well. I have a ten year old daughter that loves to share every detail in a story. I’m working toward being attentive and listening in those moments so she will come to me when she has big issues and know that I will be there to listen.
Thank you so much Rachel for taking the time to share from your heart! I appreciate all that you are working toward and love getting to watch you trust God as you move forward with Better than Blended. So many families are going to be blessed and strengthened through your ministry!