In a few of my posts I have talked about learning to have healthy boundaries. I lived so much of my life with the idea that if I was capable of something, surely I was supposed to do it. Let me tell you, that is a recipe for burn out. Just because you can do something, even if you’re the best at it, does not mean that you have to do it. This is something that I had read about in books, (Keep Your Love On) but it wasn’t until I could see it modeled in real life that I began to really understand what that looks like and how freeing it can be.
Today I want to introduce you to a mom that showed me with her life what healthy boundaries can look like. Katie Veach was the first person that would ask me for something and give me the absolute freedom to say no. When I say absolute freedom, I mean when I said no, she would actually be happy and say, “I’m so glad you said no, because that means when you say yes, I know you really mean yes.” That was SO refreshing!
Watching Katie mother her kids has taught me so much. She is not afraid of her kids’ messes, and walks through the process of cleaning those quandaries up with them. I’m not talking about spilled milk here, but when her kids mess up, she takes the time to help them process through how to be successful next time. I have found that parenting this way can be messy because it removes the idea of complete obedience and control, but once we as parents realize we don’t control our kids anyway (heck, most of us can barely control ourselves) we can actually move toward teaching self-control and how to deal with real life consequences.
Name: Katie Veach
How long have you been a mom? Ten years
How many kids do you have? Four beautiful world changers
What is your favorite thing about being a mom? I love celebrating & delighting in each one of my kids. Yes, they are crazy sometimes, but most of the time are they are the cutest, sweetest, most thoughtful little humans that just bring me so much happiness. In each little season of their life there is a sense of wonder & discovery and then we get to watch them overcome new challenges. I love that I get to be their cheerleader.
What has been one of the most difficult things you’ve experienced as a mom? When I was surrounded by diapers and baby food mush and teething toys with little humans who couldn’t communicate their needs except by screaming. That was a hard season for me because I felt like I wasn’t changing the world. Until I realized the world was right in front of me, with snot dripping down her face wanting another round of the tickle game.
What is something you’ve learned through being a mom? I have needs, and they are important. If I don’t take care of myself I’m not going to be my best self/ mom/ wife. I’m worth getting my best, and so is my family.
Have you surprised yourself in your motherhood? Of course. In both directions. In how amazingly I can handle some things like taking four kids anywhere by myself or how I can morph into a mom ninja if someone’s about to get hurt, or how the tiniest of bickers can make me feel like a bear inside. Haha!
If you had to repeat one thing in your parenting that your parents did, what would it be? My parents would always encourage me to be whatever I wanted to be. They are still to this day championing my dreams!! Incredible right??
What is one encouragement you would love to pass along to a young mom? Seasons. Nothing lasts forever. Whatever is hard right now won’t be hard for very long. It too shall pass. Try to find the good in even the roughest of days. It will help! Try to protect your heart from resenting or blaming something that was once a dream in your heart and a prayer for God to answer. It’s hard work, and requires sacrifice, but you can do it. Your kids need you and you’ve got lots of love and strength to give!
There are so many things that I love about Katie. Her passion is loving and empowering kids. Although she is the children’s pastor at Bethel Cleveland, she began in her home first. Katie truly practices at home what she teaches on Sunday mornings. Authenticity is a word that describes her very well.
It is such a joy to watch Katie live her life celebrating her friends, encouraging and empowering those that she leads in their choices, and taking the time to help families grow to be strong and healthy. As you know, I am a big fan of community as it relates to motherhood and I’m so thankful this gem just moved to my neighborhood! I am so honored to have Katie for a friend and I hope you are encouraged today by her experience as a mom!
What is something you’ve learned through being a mom that you couldn’t have known otherwise? I’d love to hear in the comments!